I noticed Prof seems to have some trouble with the AMOGing, although I'm almost 100% certain that he's been the AMOG in several instances and wasn't even aware.
I have a simple fix. Like always, my shit is uncomplicated. Childish, even. But it works. Go try it and then try to tell me it doesn't.
What do you think when you're opening a set with both dudes and ladies and that one dude is not smiling or laughing along with you at all? Scratch that, you're not opening a set. You're just hanging out. Think about what it does to you. You start thinking, maybe not even consciously, I have to get this guy on board. Does he not like me? You see, nothing he's giving you is conclusive, because he is expressionless. Desireless. You have NO IDEA what he's thinking.
The AMOG respects the guy who doesn't smile. Because he's like a garden snake to a two-year old- just as scared of you as you are of him. Believe that. Don't smile. Now as is the case with most of my practices, there's a creepy way to do this. Don't be creepy about it. Practice not smiling, and just experience all your emotions without the expression. It's easy to get better and better. Literally scold yourself if you catch a smile on your face (don't scold yourself out loud, freak). If you MUST smile, go ahead. But Maverick has NEVER been in a must smile situation, and Maverick has been in almost every situation ever.
Open a set without any smiles, especially if you sense an AMOG like Obi Wan sensed Darth. Don't act like Maverick is a nerd everyone knows Star Wars. Never even disrespect Maverick in the inner sanctum of your own mind.
This is one of those rules that will help you in every situation. People will think you're a G. Because people are scared. Hell, Maverick gets scared sometimes. It's true. Keep the expressionless face on and you'll be surprised at the pleasant outcomes. Example A: AMOG is ripping into you. You want to smile. Badly. You're a little nervous. But now that you have sat there underneath this torrent of abuse, the fact that you have remained expressionless opens up new avenues for you. You can, while remaining expressionless, desireless, make him feel embarrassed for doing that to you. You can say, "Wow," or "Jesus." Someone who says that while smiling just got BITCHED. Someone who says that with no smile is a MUTHAFUCKIN G. Because this dude just gave you his best shot and, although inside your head you are in the fetal position sobbing, to the outside world that little bitch had no effect on you. The girls get wet. He might apologize. They might apologize FOR him, and holy lord Jesus at that point you may as well be standing in their vaginas with an umbrella and a canoe.
I'm telling you. And it's not even that hard. At first you literally have to control the muscles in your face. Then you don't even have to tell yourself not to smile. And then everyone thinks that you've got something going on. That makes you stronger. Relaxed. Because they know that they are scared, and they wonder why you're not.
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Huh, I like it. Johnny6, this one's made for you.
It's funny, as I was telling prof the other day, I feel like half of all this shit (the game, pua, C3) is about allowing one's real emotions to show through to the rest of the world. If someone's ripping into you, yeah you become nervous so you want to smile, but really, why should you be smiling? That's not cool, and it's probably not funny (unless he's Kevin Smith). But it's like our first instinct is to show it doesn't bother us by smiling... which shows that it does bother us.
Allowing our true emotions to show through makes us vulnerable in a way. But that vulnerabilty makes u s 80 feet tall and made of diamond.
I have not smiled since 2003 and even then it was a smile that a spectator gives during the Special Olympics; nice try Corky but you'll never beat me at basketball. My smile is the haunting image of a jeering jack-o-lantern and lets you know I will take pleasure in taking what I want from you. But you'll never see it.
Johnny6 speaks the truth.
also, prof has no problems. Who told you that he did maverick?
Your advice is similar to a post i read recently. a little too similar???? who are you really, the one they call Maverick???Anyway, the guy suggested three words can solve 95% of situations. Ready?
"That's cool, man." no reaction. maybe a little pat on the guys back for effect. and then BOOM cut them out of whatever's going on.
A little less intense than saying "Awesome," but same idea. Not sure about never smiling, but smiling out of NERVOUSNESS is, as protag points out, the oldest mistake in the book.
And to protag: i'll post that shit when a little more when i have a chance to think about it. the larger point was this: no shame. i've been tracking (and trying to reduce) my shame levels, and it's the bomb. it's one of the effects of the 30 day challenge: shame just naturally lowers around a bunch of social stuff. Sweet.
nothing great to report from the weekend, other than my ex-girlfriend can turn me into a sensitive little bitch more than any amog. but that's for another time.
peace!
prof
p.s. the sensitive prof over the weekend actually had everythin to do with shame... and so it's all connected...
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